Ethics:  a steady balance between words & deeds.

 

QUICK! What’s your definition of the word ethics?

WAIT!

NO googling the word!

NO reaching for the dictionary!

NO asking somebody – “HEY – what’s your thoughts on ethics?”

Right now, in the next 30 seconds (or less) what’s your definition of ethics? How would you explain ethics to someone from a different culture who asks you , “Ethics! What are these things?”

Why should you care about your definition or understanding of what it means to be ethical? Well, which life do you choose?

A) Long term, stable health (on all levels) wealth and access to ways to grow wise with ease and grace.

B) Short term wealth at the cost of your health (on all levels) and growing wise by hard, difficult, painful lessons.

If you answer “B” – thanks for the honesty. Good luck with life, you’ll need LOTS of it. (Hint, Lady Luck may turn on you when you become a bit too needy!)

For all those answering “A” – congratulations. You inspire your own luck! How? Simple. The more ethical you become, the more rewards you’ll receive. How do I come to make this bold statement? I know this based on first hand experience along with watching it happen for others who hire me to help them enjoy leading a more ethical life personally and professionally.

Ethics! A word worth your time and attention!

Ethics is a simple concept from the standpoint of – what you say and what you do. Unfortunately, most definitions marry ethics with morals or moral principles. This unwise marriage sets us up for ever-expanding levels of complexity. How?

Morals grow from societal, cultural or religious needs, beliefs, customs and access (or lack of access) to a variety of resources. For example, should we follow some cultures or creeds, it seems husbands must physically beat their wives as a way to maintain a moral household. Wives may very well believed they are immoral if they don’t receive regular corporal punishment. (Is such a moral guideline morally acceptable in your world?) Morals change over time or change as society, culture or religious needs change. If you wander outside your culture or religion, what might be considered completely moral from where you call home would be completely immoral to where you arrive. Such complexity invites stress, strife, worry, doubt, shame, guilt and related children of fear to breed with abandon.

Why should you care about the difference between simple ethics and complex morals? Which kind of life do you seek?

A) A life filled with fear?

B) A life where feeling fearful is rarely an issue.

Fear consumes time, love, health, wealth, respect, reputations and anything else you may consider to be of value. Fear thieves our worth every time we invite it into our lives.

Back to simple ethics. (We’ll leave morals to folks who enjoy complexity.)

If what you say equals (more often than not) what you do, then by most standards you’re an ethical person. As you attain a consistent match between what you say and what you do, your levels of integrity rise as well. People with high ethical standards improve their levels of integrity simply by matching their word with their deed! Nice n’ simple ehh? Similar in the results of going to the gym on a regular basis. As you improve your workouts, the results include a wonderfully healthy body. Time and practice = results.

What type of results do you want in life? Better health? More amazing, supportive relationships? More money? What get’s you motivated to take action?

Here’s a few ethical exercise routines to dazzle your family and friends with a buffed set of ethics. Become a magic magnet (where good things appear out of no where more often).

As with most exercise routines, it’s best to start slow to guarantee success. Most power lifters didn’t walk into a gym the first time and dead lift 200 pounds. They started with 10 pounds (or less!). Marathon runners, swimmers and skiers know how to pace themselves as well. So, start small (maybe one 30 minute period a day) and pace yourself (add more time when you feel comfortable to do so).

Pick ONE item:

  1. Dissolving Doubt: if doubts bubble up, write down this doubt. Take time to put on your explorer hat. (This hat is different than an analyzer hat. If you need help learning the difference, hire me. I teach people powerful skills to learn when to analyze and when to explore in short order!) Explore the roots of this doubt. How does it grow? What feeds it, what starves it, etc. As you explore the roots of doubt, you rapidly become more aware of how to weed out doubt with less effort.
  2. Shift away from shame! If you sense shame, shift into true active listening mode. Shame involves feeling guilty, a low self esteem or similar lack-based traits. Shame is also corrosive in nature (both giving and receiving). Ever notice how shame eats away at you? For this exercise routine, watch and listen to yourself closely if you feel ashamed of something you do (or don’t do). If someone is trying to shame you, explore what inspired this person to shame you by practicing your active listening skills. If you ever doubt the benefits of dissolving all forms of shame (permanently), try the exercise routine above.
  3. Gag gossiping. When you find yourself communicating about another person (a person who’s NOT aware you’re communicating about them), guess what, you may run the risk of gossiping. When subjected to gossip, this exercise routines calls for pumping up your creativity in the form of gracefully bowing out of (or changing) the conversation. Gossip breeds contempt, worry, shame and doubt. Do you wish to be the source of such traits? No ethical standard that I’m aware employs gossip in any shape or form. (I am aware, however, of many morals that engage the art of gossip. Interesting huh?)

Don’t find an exercise routine you’re looking for? No worries. You’re creative I’m sure. I’ve no doubts you can come up with something that inspires your higher, more ethical person to come out and shine! If you need help, contact me. If you pick one of these, keep in touch! I want to know how you’re doing.

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